Yesterday ......

Yesterday, I was beginning to seriously doubt that we could handle this parenting 2 toddlers business. It was a pretty rough day.

I should warn you here that this post is not going to be all sunshine and roses. Just trying to be real ...... If you don't want to read about the hard part of adoption, stop reading now.

All day long, both kids were screaming. Luke was crying because he fell down (very dramatic these days). Luke was pushing Jacinda down for no reason. Jacinda walked into the corner of the table, so she was screaming because of the huge bump on her forehead. Jacinda was pulling on the cat's tail. One thing after the other. All.Day.Long.

Also, many other things happened ........ I found out I need a root canal. Our buddy, Steve, tore down what was left of our old fence. One of our neighbors freaked out because their dog got out and Steve brought it back. We had NO clue they had a dog, otherwise we would have told them. Lots of drama.

By the end of the day, I was DONE. I was really starting to wonder what we had gotten ourselves into. After Luke had pushed Jacinda down for about the 100th time, he went to his room. Aaron went up to talk to him and finally got the truth out of Luke. Luke was wondering if we could take Jacinda back. It was the first time he's said something like that to us. So they talked about it and we all went to bed.

This morning, Luke fell down or something and was crying. Before Jacinda came home, he totally would have just gotten up and been fine. Since she's been home, he cries at the drop of a hat. So I took him into my lap and asked why he was so sad all the time. He said, "Because Jacinda is here and I'm not the only kid any more." (Aaron had said something like that to him last night.)

So Luke and I talked about a few things. First, I told him that Daddy and I love him just as much as we ever did. Second, I told him that we're a family, and families work things out. I told him that this is hard for all of us. But that we would all work together and figure things out and be happy. He seemed to be satisfied with that discussion.

We, of course, knew that there would be some transition time for all of us. I don't think we realized it would be this hard. Luke is used to sharing, but he's not used to sharing HIS stuff, and HIS mommy and daddy. I'm not sure we realized how hard it would be for a 3 year old to have his entire world turned upside down.

Today has been better. Hopefully yesterday was just a bad day. I'm SO thankful that Aaron is working only part time this month. It's been so helpful to have him home.

Adjusting .........

We've been home just over 2 weeks now. We're pretty much over the jet lag, finally. Adjusting to life as a family of 4 has been pretty difficult. The kids love each other, when they're not fighting over anything and everything. Right now, they're both laying next to me on the bed and they're kicking each other for no reason. And now they're both screaming.

Luke has been handling all of this as well as a 3 year old can be expected to. His whole world was just turned completely upside down, and that was after mommy and daddy were gone for almost 3 weeks. So he's had a hard time. Sharing toys is pretty hard for him. I mean, he's had to share before at church and school, but not so much on his home turf.

Jacinda screams. A lot. We think it's largely because she can't communicate with us. She doesn't say anything at all due to her cleft palate. Part of it is probably grief from her world being turned upside down, too.

They're actually better behaved when we're not at home! Of course, that might be due to the large amounts of snacks they get while we're out and about!!!!! We've also been spending lots of time at our neighborhood park. The weather has been nice lately, so we've been trying to get out and enjoy it.

But we're hanging in there. Aaron is working part-time this month, so that's a huge help. He goes into the office in the mornings and then comes home at lunch. He's able to help me get the kiddos fed and down for their naps.

Pictures from our trip are HERE.

That's it for now! I must attempt to put kiddos to bed!

We are Home!!!!

A lot of you know this already, but we are home. The journey home was quite eventful, and I don't want to relive it here! But we made it home!!!!!! It was SO nice to sleep in our own bed that first night!

We missed Luke so much. It didn't really hit us how much we missed him until we saw him again. We could tell he really missed us, too. I feel like we missed a whole chunk of his life, which makes me a little sad. I think he grew a lot, too! I don't remember him being so big.

Jacinda is a dream. She is just perfect for our family. She and Luke so far have been doing great with each other. They both have had their moments, but overall, things are going really well. This morning at breakfast, they were eating next to each other and no adults were at the table. Jacinda started crying for her cup and we asked Luke why he took her cup. He said because she was playing with it and not drinking!!!! Mr. Bossy! It was pretty funny!

Jacinda goes to see our pediatrician tomorrow afternoon for a checkup. I'm sure he will tell us that she's doing great. She's definitely tiny, though. But her cleft palate is not affecting her eating and drinking at all, so that's good. Speaking of that, her consult with the cleft team is December 1. We will meet with a team of surgeons from Operation Smile. Our insurance will pay for everything, but the doctors at our children's hospital are the ones that work with Operation Smile. We are confident they will take very good care of her. We're probably looking at her palate surgery early next year. Then they will redo her lip repair after that at some point. We'll get a lot more information at that Dec. 1 appointment.

Just wanted to check in and give you all an update. We're recovering from jet lag ... Aaron and Jacinda seem to be handling it pretty well .... me, not so much! But we're hanging in there and adjusting to life as a family of four!!!

Day 15 – 10/22/09 – Last Full Day in Guangzhou

The good news is, we got Jacinda's visa today after all – a day early.  The bad news ….. we still can't leave yet.  There's no way to change all our travel arrangements to leave a day early.  So now we have most of the day Friday to kill here in Guangzhou.

 

Then we leave late afternoon for our train to Hong Kong.  I'm not sure if we'll have internet access at our hotel in Hong Kong.  So if you don't hear from us for a couple of days, that's why.  We leave Saturday morning our time (Friday night Eastern time) to head home.

 

Thanks for all the good wishes and thoughts.  See you all soon!!!!

Day 14 – 10/21/09 – Next to last day in Guangzhou

This morning, we had to wait around in our room in case there was an issue with our paperwork.  There was an issue, but it wasn't our fault, so our guide said she told the US Consulate to fix it!  I guess we'll see!

 

This afternoon, all the families in our group loaded up in a bus to go to the US Consulate.  We had to swear that all the information we had provided was accurate.  We also had to turn in Jacinda's application for her visa to get into the US.  She'll travel to the US on a Chinese passport, so she needs a visa.  That's the whole reason we spend a week in Guangzhou.  Apparently it takes that long to issue the visa.

 

In the room at the consulate, there were probably over a hundred people, all adoptive families.  The lady at the Consulate gave a little speech about what the Consulate is there for.  Then she had the nerve to say that all the babies were getting restless!!!!  REALLY??????  Then she got around to the swearing of the information.  Then she told us congratulations and that we could go home!  In actuality, we can't leave until we have that visa in our hands!!!!!!  It was all quite humorous.  Well, the kind of humorous that if you don't laugh, you'll cry!

 

The good news (if there is such a thing at this point) is that our Consulate Appointment ended up being a day early.  The bad news is that we don't get her visa any earlier.  So now we hang out for 2 more days waiting for her visa so we can leave.

 

We've been really frustrated the past 2 days with all the paperwork.  Apparently the US Consulate changed some things around.  So we have felt really out of the loop as far as what we need to do and what is happening.  We're not sure if our agency isn't communicating with us very well, or what.

 

Tomorrow, we have one last paperwork meeting.  We'll find out all the details of how we actually get Jacinda's visa in our hands.  We'll also find out the details of how we're getting to Hong Kong on Friday and then leaving for the US on Saturday.  We arrive in Norfolk Saturday night.  We are SO ready to be home.  It's been a great trip, and of course we're thrilled to have Jacinda.  But we're done.  We're mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted.  Home is sounding very good to us.

Day 13 – Part 2 – Lost in Translation

Tonight we went on a cruise down the Pearl River, which is the 3^rd longest river in China, according to our tour guide. We had a great time, although the weather wasn't the greatest.  In the basement of the boat, there was a museum.  The vase in the above picture was there with the description in the picture below it.  Some things definitely get lost in translation here!!!!

Day 12 and 13 – 10/19 and 10/20/09 – STILL in Guangzhou

Monday

 

Jacinda started being fussy today.  We're not sure if it was because of the shots or if she's just adjusting to us.  We went to a huge park in the morning and it was beautiful, but very hot.

 

Today was the day that both Aaron and I really got homesick.  We're ready to be in our own house, cook our own food, sleep in our own bed, have ice in our drinks, and see Luke!  We're also ready to introduce Jacinda to the rest of her family!!!!

 

Jacinda is really starting to show her personality to us.  She's from the Hunan province, and the girls from that province are known as spicy girls.  She certainly is spicy!  When we take something away that she can't have, like a cord, or something sharp, she stomps her little feet, crumples up her face and cries.  It's actually really cute, and we have to try not to laugh!

 

She is also continuing to warm up to Aaron, but still on her own terms.  She'll play with him, but will rarely let him carry her.  When she does, it's only for a few minutes.  But we're getting there.

 

Tuesday

 

We did a little shopping today, but it started to rain.  This afternoon, we did some group pictures with all the families from our adoption agency.

 

Tonight, we're going on a river cruise with all the families.  It will be pretty late when we get back, so we'll blog about it tomorrow.

 

Tomorrow, we head to the US Consulate to do some paperwork.